Afraid to Share "Real Life"

It seems to me that so many Christians are afraid to share the "real life" stuff that is going on in their lives because they are afraid of being judged by the very people (other Christians) that demand forgiveness when they screw-up. Too many times Christians feel they need to handle their problems (marriage, children, money or whatever) within the walls for their home, hoping that nobody finds out. I am pretty sure this wasn't what God had in mind for His church.
Maybe it is unreal expectations. Too often we "hear of" families breaking apart after years of turmoil only after they have separated or filed for divorce. Or we find out that a child has been abused only after something horrible happens. Why is that? I feel sometimes it is because of unreal expectations that the church unintentionally places on it's people. The church should be a hospital for hurting people not a country club of elite members.
I just spoke with someone that has been attending church for years, teaching classes AND struggling with their marriage. But, nobody but me knows about the marriage issues right now. Not even the person that they have shared teaching duties with for years. They are struggling even to save their marriage. I don't understand why this goes on in God's family. Unfortunately, this happens far more often than I would like to say. We only hear about problems after it is too late.
I would encourage everyone to find a small group of strong believers to share life with. Seek out others to share life experience with. If you are struggling, seek Godly help, seek Godly advice and seek Godly wisdom. It is a scary thing to let others see that you aren't perfect and letting them see you with your guard down, but I guarantee you that others are struggling with (or have struggled with) the same thing and want help (or want to help others). You don't need to be alone. You don't need to be afraid to share YOUR "real life".